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Why do some of the abused become the abusers themselves?

I have had time to ponder, and found this blog; http://www.amyreesanderson.com/blog/if-people-are-trying-to-bring-you-down/#.U8Em-fldW It makes me wonder why some abused people become the abusers themselves, but others, like me, become the helpers? Surely most people would have enough intelligence to understand that what happened to them was wrong, and not allow for that conditioning to be stronger than their conscious thoughts… They would realise that it’s wrong to continue in the same abusive way.  Maybe it makes them feel good to put someone down, to feel in control.

Could this be the “Pavlovs dog” conditioning, so buried in the subconscious, that it’s not recognised?

I have always been the believer in “People who feel good about themselves want to make others feel good and don’t need to knock the joy out of someone.” I hope more will learn the art of emotional intelligence.

Read more: http://www.beliefnet.com/columnists/lessonsfromarecoveringdoormat/2011/08/people-who-tear-you-down.html#ixzz37HuDmjBO

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